Pause for Clarity

Pause for Clarity

By Tierra Destiny Reid

A new life begins with a new decision. A new decision is best after a pause. Taking time to pause allows us to see our lives clearly. We are then able to honor our past while also welcoming new beginnings. Whether it is a new relationship, job, or personal goal, taking the time to pause will reduce future regrets and allow you to take all factors into consideration.

When approaching a major crossroad or decision in your life, consider these five things:

1) What is it that I desire?
2) What is my intent?
3) Why do I desire this?
4) How does this decision impact my future goals?
5) What am I willing to commit to, for me to maximize this opportunity or season of life?

These questions allow us to truly think beyond the moment and begin envisioning ourselves in the reality of the new decision. Sometimes, we are so anxious about making a decision, that we can become overwhelmed and stifle our growth by over thinking. Allowing yourself to zone out and think about your life beyond all options, makes it easier to process and embrace what feels right both intuitively and rationally.

Following this process would allow couples to see what they are contributing as an individual to a union, as well as what expectations they may have coming into a new marriage. After many mistakes in my own love life, I now understand
the importance of taking time to pause, gain clarity, and envision the life you truly want and deserve before involving another human being.

It is then, that we can truly infuse our best selves into any opportunity or relationship that is right for us. We know this is right for us, because we would have taken the time to hear ourselves prior to listening to the opinions of others.

For instance, at the ripe age of 22, I was getting married. I was in my last semester of college and had never lived alone as an independent adult. I came into my marriage without much life experience and assumed it would naturally work out if we both had great intentions for our marriage. However, intentions are not enough. Healing from our past, learning who we are without expecting someone else to know this fully, and being mindful of healthy boundaries and the needs of those we love, are very critical. Unfortunately, I was very immature in this department and had a lot of healing to do from my childhood and past relationships.

It was the power of peace in taking a pause that allowed me to explore these deeper truths that ultimately attract what we truly deserve and desire.

As you embark on your season of change and new beginnings, I encourage you to take moments to pause and gain clarity, so that you can hear those quiet whispers that are always nudging us in the direction of our deepest desires. The love, life, and future you envision awaits. Make sure you are ready to embrace it.


Tierra Reid
Tierra Destiny Reid is a proud mother of two, and an innovative trailblazer in retail, entrepreneurship, and women’s empowerment. She has also began to sink her teeth in real estate investing. The author of the revolutionary empowerment guide ‘The Power of Peace in a Pause’, Tierra is passionate about using her life lessons and gifts to inspire women around the world to pause and propel their way to authentic success, leadership, and service.

Tierra Destiny Reid
Author, Public Speaker

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